5. How to Feel Better, Part 1

We have come to believe that we are supposed to be happy almost all of the time with just a sprinkling of unhappiness, and that pressure has led to a lot of unnecessary emotional suffering.

Our lives are designed with contrast, and realizing that is so freeing and brings so much peace. Happiness wouldn’t have any value if it’s all we ever experienced. Sadness is what makes happiness so wonderful. Think of the sun and rain. Many of us love the sun and hate the rain, but the rain is so important. It irrigates crops and is a lifeline for us.

Emotions are not caused by our good and bad circumstances. Emotions are caused by our thoughts, and I encourage you to stop thinking of emotions as positive or negative but rather as comfortable or uncomfortable. When you drop your fear of experiencing uncomfortable emotions, unnecessary suffering decreases.

 

Show Highlights

  • society has taught humanity that we need to be happy all of the time

  • uncomfortable emotions aren’t always bad

  • why we’re lucky to be human

  • how to start changing your relationship with emotions

  • what emotions are and where they come from

  • the difference between thoughts and emotions

  • a method that you can use to start changing how you feel about emotions

 

Resources

Sheila’s Website

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