3. Our Biggest Problem: Other People
Do you ever feel like you're finally getting the hang of being happy and feeling peaceful but then other people ruin it? I am really excited about this topic because it is the single biggest problem that most of us think we have: other people. It's such a big problem, in fact, that I think that if you put the tools that I share with you in this episode to use, this might just be one of the most transformative podcast episodes that you will ever hear.
Tune in as I discuss being responsible for your own emotions and not allowing anyone else to have the power to control how you feel. While you are entitled to having preferences about how people should behave, being in control of how you emotionally respond to whether or not such people do behave that way is so important, and I give you a great example of how to circumvent the resentment often felt from people not living up to your expectations.
I challenge you to try letting go of the rules and expectations that we have regarding other people. Do it for as long as you can tolerate, and see what happens as a result. I think that you will notice a drastic change in not only your relationship with others but also your emotional health. Other people are in charge of themselves, so you be in charge of yourself.
Show Highlights
why many of us believe other people to be our biggest problem
how relationships are similar to a dance
why it's important to individuate
why we shouldn't let anyone else be responsible for how we feel
the resentment that can result from letting other people decide how we feel
a real example of a client who experienced resentment as a result
the reminder that thoughts lead to feelings which lead to behavior
some helpful homework for you
Resources
